The Importance of Being Honest

Am I being honest when I do something that I really don't want to do? Am I being honest when I accept invitations that I don't want? Am I being honest when I don't like something and I still put on a brave face and act polite and well mannered?

I have had to ask myself these questions a few times in my life. When are we being honest and why should we be honest without being rude?

I have discovered that every time that I am not honest about what I truly want to do I always get myself into trouble. It's inevitable. 

We should be polite always and we don't have to be rude to express our opinion, likes and dislikes. We should also be clear about when we want to do something and when we are just doing it to please others.

I got invited to an event. I did not want to go. I did not particularly feel comfortable with that person who invited me and did not know how to say no. So I said yes, and went, putting on a brave face, a smile, acting polite and friendly for as long as I could. It did not work. Something in me gave away the truth. I was bored, I was restless, I was irritated, which obviously got on the person's nerves and it ended up in a big argument and I don't think I will be invited again too soon.

The thing is that we cannot lie to ourselves any more and we really have to do our best to be honest, even if it means ruffling a few feathers. I did not know how to say no for fear of hurting poeple's feelings, and in the end I hurt them anyway. Cutting comments that I would not normally pass did not go down well and Karma came back to bite me on the butt instantly.

I could have avoided the whole stress of going, spending more than necessary, by simply declining the invitation. By being honest maybe we upset people, but in the long run it can only benefit everyone, because when we are honest we can trust that we will be treated honestly too.

I have been watching my behavior very closely lately, and I have really noticed that when I go out of my way to please someone, because I am afraid of saying no, the results are always disastrous and much trauma is created for all parties as a result.

But when I am being honest about my life, myself and my wants, people tend to respect me more.

It's a vibrational thing. When we state our truth, the resonance is different than when we are not. Equally we know when someone is making excuses or is lying, because we can sense it.

When we speak our truth the vibration resonates with the energy in the universe and everyone experience it as a sense of inner connection. When we lie, there is a discordance between our energy and the universal energy that makes everybody feel on edge and uncomfortable.

The era of truth is here and we cannot hide behind lies any more. No one can. So I have started practicing and it's working a treat.

Have a wonderful and truthful day!

Clear Statements, Walking the Dog, Eating Well

Without much effort, gently but surely since the summer I have dropped almost a stone. I have not really put much effort into it and have not obsessed over it either.

When I reached the highest weight I have ever been; one stone and a bit more, heavier than my ideal weight, I stayed there for a while and then after summer was over I said "This is it, I now intend to be 10Kgs lighter." And left it at that.
My eating habits changed without much effort, and decided to stick to a 'native' diet; fruits and nuts for a while, with the occasional rice and veg and fish or some meat, always with coconut oil. To my delight the weight started to drop. Sometimes I would have a slice of sourdough bread with raw cheese in the morning.
Two months later the dog came to stay with me and changed my routine drastically. Two hours a day of gentle walking, I have not done that in a long time. A few more pounds went easily.
Then Xmas came and I indulged a little. I was not bothered too much, but some bloating and feeling very lethargic made me rethink about indulging for too long.

I started doing acupuncture for some niggling knee pains, it has taken a while to kick in and now it seems to be making a difference. Then three days of recovering from eating something that caused me to be really ill gave it the last blow. I went on the scale two days ago and I was not sure it was correct. I had dropped another four pounds and my weight is almost where I was more than ten years ago. I was so surprised I tried a few times to make sure that the scale was working.

So I think it was not just one thing but a combination of all of these factors that is helping me to find my natural rythm and makes me want to follow my instincts.

I set an intention and as there were no obstacles in the way, the body followed the orders and made me want to do all the things that would allow that order to be fulfilled quite effortlessly.
I am thrilled!

So now it's time to make other clear intentions to achieve all the other things that have been waiting in the pipeline.

Have a wonderful clear 'Intention Day', today.

Why Do We Judge and How Can We Stop It?

Even the most so called spiritual people, the ones that think they are so enlightened and so spiritually 'tuned in' judge constantly. 

Of course they don't see that as judging, they see them as speaking their truth. 

Is it really speaking their truth? Or this new and very convenient term gives them the excuse to lash out at others?

I heard someone say once; "That speaker is not very spiritual because she smokes and dyes her hair." Excuse me? So effing what? "Dying one's hair is a sign of insecurity and vanity", this person said.

But so is boasting about one's presumed skills or whatever one thinks is so good at!!! 

I heard this person criticize everything and everyone, including me, passing sneak, derogative remarks about the not so latest-fashion handbag, or my taste in music or definitely not the same taste in clothes. 

Quite frankly I really like my style so I don't give a fig about what others say about what I wear or don't. I have always been one to stay a bit off the beaten track and sometimes I am ahead of the crowd, sometimes well behind it. But do I care? That's what makes me unique. I dye my hair too. I use natural color and I like it that way! 

Some people change their names. That's not so clever because that's denying one's identity, as if to say that it is not good to be who you are. But so what? If that's what they want... ( I used to judge that once. But then I used to hate my name too!)

Some people let their hair go grey because they want to make a statement or want to grow older faster because they want something that is missing, 'the status of the older and wiser'. Why seek something when the time isn't there? And some people are older, wiser and choose to dye their hair, because that's what they want, and SO WHAT???

And, may I say, that some people are older and they don't get grey hair? Whist others get the greys in their twenties!Is it to do with age, or more like with constitution, stress, and nutritional deficiency as a result?

I have learned that wisdom does not come with age or grey hair, but it comes to those who allow themselves to grow at the pace that life expects you to grow. 

There is a saying I am very fond of: 

At twenty we think we know it all. At thirty we Know we know it all. At forty we know that we know f...k all!

It's only when we are humble and respectful and non judgmental of others that we start to learn and learning means to understand that we have no rights to judge anyone and that sometimes we have to have the humility to admit that it's all right not to know everything and that others might know more than we do.

We don't grow old for nothing! But this does not mean that older people have all the answers, it means that they have more awareness because they have had more time to watch and to observe. They might or might not have resolved all their issues, but if they have not, who are we the younger and 'I am so amazing and I know everything' generation know? Older people know more, that is indisputable. It is the way that they use their knowing that might be unethical and manipulative.  Equally older people might not know about other things, the latest computers or electronic gadget! But you know what? That's not so stupid, because they instinctively know that so much technology around ain't good for you at all!

I have learnt that we need to respect people of all ages and of all intellectual abilities, but I have also learnt that it is better to stay away from the ego oriented ones of all ages that have one thing in common; FEAR.

It is fear that makes people arrogant. It is fear that makes people obsessed with status, money, achievement, success, religious convictions and always, always wanting to prevaricate everyone and be the center of attention. It is fear of not being good enough that we become manipulators of others by always putting them down and judging them as old and antiquated.

I raise my hand, I am guilty too and boy don't I regret all those times that I judged my mother or other older people. When she was not in her heart, (my mother) she was not a very pleasant person. But when she was respected and appreciated, the pearl of wisdom that would come out of her mouth were priceless.

I had a friend who was fifteen older than me, I adored her. She knew lots, but then she was also incredibly afraid and that fear was always coming out as arrogance. In the end I gave up on her. She knew a lot, but she also knew nothing in other subjects and was too arrogant to admit it.

I am the older one today, and I have to deal with the youngsters who think they are the dog's b......s, but as I am learning every day, I don't judge, I smile and I think 'oh dear, we all have to learn the hard way.' 

And I simply steer away from the smart a...s and they become less and less part of my reality.

I am going to finish this post by saying that when we stop JUDGING OURSELVES that's when stopping judging others becomes much, much easier.

Have a good and non judgmental day (to yourself first)

When We Are Unwell

When we are not well, we can do nothing but rest and sleep. And sometimes that is really all that is required to get back on our feet. Lots of water with a few grains of Himalayan salt and two drops of Crab Apple for cleansing the system, and really lots of rest and sleep. 

That's what I have done over the past 24 hours, and I have almost totally recovered. There is nothing like a short spell of unwellness to make you appreciate health and well being.

I rested and slept, and dragged myself out three times to walk the dog, (that was tough, but when you live on your own, sometimes there are no alternatives)and I had time to reflect on a few things.

One of the things that has become very clear is that I do not want to be a doormat or a servant to anyone any more. I am a kind person, I am giving and always putting everyone before me. Is that really kindness, or is that fear of being judged as mean?

I had to think about that. I can't say no. I say yes because I want to please, I force myself to accept invitations for fear of upsetting the person, for fear of being 'nasty'. I say yes to host someone because I want to be seen as such an amazing person, and then I am the one who is always losing out.

Being unwell has helped me to appreciate my space, and my strength. Despite being on my own, I take care of my health in a natural way, I don't panic, I don't despair, I take charge and listen to my own wisdom that tells me just what to do. And in between snoozes I have realized how stressed I have been for the demands being imposed on me. So very honestly I said 'no, I am sorry, I don't want to do this, because it's an imposition on me and I don't want to go through this stress again.'

Of course that did not go down too well, but as I did not feel guilty about it, the person capitulated and said, "I have found another way". 

There are many reason as to why we become unwell, but those reasons are just the means through which the body is telling us that we need to stop because something needs to be looked at.

So maybe next time, I will listen instead of having to go through this again!!

What Do They Put in Our Food?

'There is a bug going around', I said to a friend, who came to visit for one day with her baby. They had both been feeling sick, vomiting for a few days. When she left, she left behind an apple pastry and some rolls. Lunchtime came I had not had a white roll in decades, they looked alluring I thought I would have one. Shortly after I started to feel sick, nauseous and without any hesitation I went to the toilet and puked it all up. I was fine again. I did not connect that it could have been what I ate.

Evening came, I was tempted by the apple pastry and decided to have it with my green tea. All was well. In the middle of the night I woke up feeling ghastly. A feeling of nausea made me break out in a a sweat. I went to the toilet and puked. But I was feeling so ill that I went back to bed without puking it all out. Woke up again an hour later, same thing. By then though the food had gone through. I felt very ill, like I had been poisoned. And as I was lying in bed, wondering what the heck had happened, a thought struck me. This is how they get the bugs to circulate, airborne, or in the water and flour of ordinary food. After all the vast majority of the population eats ordinary food, specially when in a hurry or on the road.

I never get sick, unless I eat something that has gone off. But neither the roll nor the pastry were off. So it must be something they put in the food. Obviously the nursing mother eats food with something in it, the milk will be affected and the baby gets the bug through the milk.

As I am taking care of myself now, drinking plenty of water with RRemedy, which has Crab Apple in it to cleanse the vibration of the bug, I felt it was important to share this, so that we can stay away, and for very good reasons, from the 'ordinary food' that have become the target to easily get the population ill.

I know it's a big thing, and not everyone is affected, only if you are stressed and below par, but it is worth remembering that particularly when you are under stress it's  better to eat the best food possible, or stick to fruit and nuts and then you can't go wrong.

White Chestnut

White Chestnut is very helpful in stubborn cases of 'the broken record syndrome'.

Something quite unpleasant happened a while ago. It was pretty traumatic at the time, (I will talk about this some other time), and I took plenty of Rescue Remedy. Then I looked for the reasons as to why what happened, happened that way, and I found plenty. 

But apparently that is not enough. Even if we find the reasons as to why people do what they do to us, we are left with that bitter taste of having been overtaken by a bully and were unable to put our point across. You know, when you have been accused of wrong doing, and you know that they are lying, and that their anger is nothing to do with what they are accusing you of. You just know. It is a knowing that I have learned to cultivate to perfection. 

At the time of the incident, I was so speechless that I could not utter a word. I was dealing with a bully in disguise. (I said I was not going to talk about it, but here I am exposing the story.)

What happens when the attack comes unexpectedly is that it makes a dent in your auric field and the attacker can overtake you. That's what happened to me. I was overtaken by the avalanche of accusations and when I tried to reason, the bully would not let go. She had the upper hand and was not going to let go. I felt totally paralyzed and unable to get my thoughts in order. All I knew was that she was lying; to me and to herself. She was accusing me of something, because she needed the excuse to lash out at me for something totally different. I knew this and could not say it. Had she been honest with the real reasons of her anger,  we would have had a breakthrough together. But that did not happen. Maybe that's not what she wanted but maybe neither did I!

In the weeks that followed, I managed to join all the dots and then I was fine but this nagging feeling that I had been overtaken by the bully wouldn't leave me and the thoughts kept on going around in my head like a broken record. 

So I decided to take some White Chestnut and not only I decided to finally put this on paper but also the obsessive need to put things straight has now gone. (It's the Virgo part of me that always wants to have everything in order.)

As we all co-create in an experience, I now know why I created my side of the story. This is what taking responsibility means. 

What other people do to us, is for them to sort out. Anger lashed out at others is always hiding deep and often unconscious fears. But that is not for us to sort out or point out. The only responsibility we have in any situation is to ourselves. They have to to do the work to find out why, what and how. If we told them what we see, it would deprive them of the experience of figuring things out for themselves. It would also be extremely unethical to start poking around in someone's psyche, unless, like in a healing session, we have permission to do so. 

(The lady was trying very hard to poke at mine, but I would not let her and what she was left with was the mirroring of her own stuff.)

But anyway, now that I have taken White Chestnut I feel that I can finally put this to rest and get on with using my energy fully for much more important tasks. 

Ps. 

will probably need to take W Chestnut and RR (Rescue Remedy) for a while for things to settle totally.

Happy New Year

Happy New Year

2013 is finally here! The 21st of December came, yes, there was a major planetary alignment but the world was still here when I woke up with a smile on the 22nd.

I was kind of expecting some big things... but they did not happen, well things did happen but not to the scale that I thought they might; like another Great Flood or something of that proportions.

The world is full of turmoil, no denying that, but continents did not sink and fire did not break out to wipe entire worlds. There were enough people around the world, awakened and loving people who worked hard to avoid this from happening. I did my bit of course and did a big visualization-meditation on the day with a friend on the phone, and then some more by myself. I spent the day peacefully in contemplation enjoying the company of my cats and dog and then did some more with another friend on the 22nd. (The Solstice happens over three-day period.) Lots of good work to set up the stage for the world we all want to live in. 

There is an underground movement of soul that really want to go beyond the fear and live in another reality; a reality where there is a lot more understanding and love than there has ever been before.

I learned, a good while back that the reason we have incarnated on Earth at this time is to help to facilitate the healing of the fear vibration from the gene pool. 

Over the past twenty years and even before that, it has been my greatest goal to never be afraid even when there were good reasons to  be. We are here to erase the fear and to anchor the vibration of self love and love for others.

I want to congratulate all of those people that took the trouble to do the work and to facilitate a smooth passage into the new 26,000 years cycle. We shall be experiencing the shifting and settling into the new phase for many years to come. 

I feel very excited about life, about the things that I have learned and the things that I am going to learn this year and intentionally achieve.

The world is still here thanks to the awakened human race that wanted it this way. Thank you fellows, thank you even if I don't know who or where you are. WE MADE IT and now we can relax and focus on experiencing the power of the new vibration. 

For those who are still trapped in their fears and acting out of fears with acts of vandalism to themselves and others; the bullies, the aggressors, the troublemakers, the seekers of cheap thrills... all these things are going to be short lived and soon it will become clearer and clearer why, what and how these behavior are still sought and they too shall set themselves free.

Happy New 26,000 Year Cycle!