It Was Just a Mouse

The persistent, rustling noise was coming from the floorboard. I woke up suddenly. I switched the light on, thinking it was the cat, but the room was empty. The noise stopped and a chill went down my spine. I froze with fear. We had been talking over dinner about a restless spirit in the house. Immediately I thought that's what it was.

I laid in bed with the light on, waiting for the noise to start again. I was scared more than necessary, but I had one similar experience a long time ago, so my reaction was justified.

I wanted to get up and call my friends but I was too scared to move. I decided to do a little healing instead.

If there really was a restless spirit in the room, it would be more helpful to facilitate its release instead of running around screaming. So I did.

Breathing deeply I did what I normally do, using my healing, mental tools.  After about fifteen minutes I drifted off back to sleep.

I don't know much time had passed when I was awakened again by the same noise. This time I was not scared (I guess the healing helped) and a thought struck me; "It's just a mouse".

A house in the country with a very good, hunting cat, what else could it be but a mouse under the floorboard? I smiled at my sudden realization and at the fact that the gripping fear had totally vanished.

I was left with some questioning though. Was it just a mouse? Or was it a mouse and a spirit using the mouse to attract my attention, asking for help? (Hence the intense fear.)

We laughed about it over breakfast, but I still wonder!

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A Gluten-Sugar Free World

I am not going to wait for the new year to start a change in life-style. Xmas has finally happened, done and dusted, and on Xmas eve there was a powerful new moon. It is on new moons that we initiate new projects.

My big project is a change in lifestyle, be really healthy and vibrant and lose a few pounds that have been bugging  me for a few years. I am going to give the gluten and sugar free food a deserved try. 

I have a friend who has been doing it for a while and she is doing all right, I have to admit. 

Gluten free food can be quite pricey, I agree with you, but my health has begun to benefit already, so who cares?  After only a week, I can already feel the difference. I don't feel bloated, tired and sleepy after gluten free toasts, or gluten free pasta with sautee courgettes and I feel full and satiated for hours. We do need our carbs, and finally I can have my cake and eat it.

Does gluten free food really make you lose weight? I don't know. My friend is very slim, but then again she loves her Chi Kung (chi gong) so it could be a combination of the two.

I am going to give it a try for a while and see what happens. The aim is the weight loss, but I wonder if I ought to shift the attention onto simply eating gluten free for my health and let the weight take care of itself?

There is plenty to experiment with, and no need to deprive myself of anything.  I am going gluten free and sugar free. Just substitute sugar with Agave nectar or other natural sweeteners and gluten free flours to make breads, cookies and other goodies. I will keep you posted.

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Dates With The Past

Ever had a bad experience that left a bitter taste in your mouth?

For some people that is not a problem; they are the lucky ones, they acknowledge the bad experience, shrug their shoulders and move on. Not many, I must say.
For the vast majority of us, the experience is eventually forgotten but never integrated. As usual it is the feelings that we had at the time that linger on and that with the knowledge we have today can be released so that the experience when remembered becomes totally neutral.

How do you know when you have a date with the past? When for no reasons at all you start feeling very edgy and things start to go wrong.

I was perfectly fine yesterday and then in the afternoon I start to experience feelings of hopelessness and despair which came out of nowhere. Then this morning, upon awakening, I remembered that this month I have a very important date with the past. In November of quite a few years ago I got married!

For some people getting married is a wonderful experience, but it was not for me.
We went our separate ways some six years later. Those years, however were certainly not happy. I spent most of that time feeling terrible for having done something that I really did not want to do. My emotions were ranging mostly from depression, despair, hopelessness and helplessness. Not a very nice place to be in.

And this year I have finally realised that every year, when this time of the year approaches, I start to feel pretty edgy and unhappy for no reasons.  I woke up feeling awful and remembered that a long time ago, I was feeling just the same. So I took some time out and went into my emotions. They were not pleasant at all.

I was in my twenties, confused and lost, every choice I made seemed to be always the wrong one. Karmically I believe that there are not mistakes, but only choices dictated by the soul that has agreed to pay back its due. I did not think this at the time though. At the time it was either choosing between two evils, and I chose one.

Although many years have gone by, the emotions never got resolved. Unresolved emotions have a charge that get triggered on cue, just like these ones got triggered as the date approached.

When emotions are not resolved they are stored away in the subconscious, and only when we finally take the time to address them and release them, they will not bother us any more.

I did the usual. I sat down, I connected with the pain in the present, which is not pleasant at all, and the body took me straight back to that time, when I was feeling the same emotions. I felt very hard done by then, felt trapped and without choices; I was feeling like the victim that I was then.

Without going into too many details, a healing is always very powerful when there is willingness to let go of blame and anger towards others. Yes, I did feel helpless and hopeless but only because at the time I was always unable to say no, for fear of upsetting other people's feelings.

Today I understand that it is our duty to set boundaries and to say no when we mean no. If the other person becomes upset, but we have acted out of integrity, then we have nothing to feel bad about.

It became clear during the healing that I was really angry with myself for precisely those reasons, my inability to say what I really meant. By not being able to be my highest truth I created a really terrible life for myself.

So I cleared the emotional residues and replaced with new programs of self respect and self support.

I felt a world better after I finished; light hearted and free.

The past can hold a person a prisoner, but what the prison really is about is the emotions that were created then, that still resonate in the emotional field of the person.

Once those are clear, you can look forward to your life as the year goes by and those dates reappear you will find with delight that they have no charge any more and you ca finally go about your business of being happy and fulfilled unhampered and free.

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Low Self-Esteem? Take Larch

Larch is the remedy for those people who feel insecure, inferior and do not trust their talents.

I have not used it for a while, not with myself not with others. Of late however, this remedy jumped out at me with a client who has a physical issue that does not budge.

I don’t know why, but suddenly I thought of Larch. I have worked with this client and his problem for a while, I have looked at anger, resentment, guilt and other emotional states, but for some reasons thinking it related to self-confidence never crossed my mind.

But this is how it is with the Bach Flowers, you clear all the layers, (and that might take a while) and then another emotional state comes up that might be just as relevant.

‘What if,’ I said to myself, ‘despite the fact that this person seems to be self-assured and confident, he actually feels quite insecure and vulnerable?’ After all we all feel that way at one time or another.

When this problem appeared, this client was in a pickle with his life. I asked him what was going on.  

He was working in a company doing a job he loathed. One day he had a fight with someone who was questioning his skills in the workplace. As much as he did not like the job, he had decided to put some effort into it, to make it more bearable.

Instead of being appreciated, he met the hostility of his senior colleague instead. Obviously there were some hierarchy issues as this person attacked him verbally, shouting and screaming at him.

He felt totally at a loss. Why was he attacked like that? He immediately took on board the insults and believed what the man was saying to him; that he was not good at the job and he should not be doing what he was not capable of.

He backed down, feeling rejected and hurt. But then anger took over and he reacted, ‘what the heck, I hate this job anyway’ and he quit on the spot.

Of course at the time it never occurred to him that that was his way out of a situation that he would have never have had the courage to move away from.

Not long after that the physical problem appeared.

We had a long chat, and soon it became obvious that he had had self-esteem issues for the whole of his life. Had he had self-confidence, had he been brought up to believe in himself he would have never ended up where he did.

I gave him a mixture of Larch, Mimulus and Walnut; Larch for confidence and self-esteem, Mimulus for known fears and Walnut the link breaker to help him with the transition that he is at in his life right now.

It’s only been three days, and he is already reporting improvement. Ideas come to him more easily, he is capable of seeing his tasks through the day effortlessly and he is clearing his life of clatter. He feels less aggressive and more sympathetic towards others, but the best part is that he can see through people without taking advantage of what he sees.

His skills that have always been well above average are now accepted easily and without arrogance and he gets on with things in a new way.

What is happening is that as he releases the feelings that he is not good enough, he is open and receptive to offers, and opportunities come his way, and he does not shy away from them, because the old reaction of ‘I can’t do this, they won’t like it’ it’s not there any more.

This state of being, feeling inferior, starts very early in life, back in the womb, when the mother passes down to the unborn baby her own feelings of fear and inadequacy. The baby picks those up and when he is born he already has a load of negative expectations about himself that only become stronger as he grows.

Emotions are not something that anyone questioned at any one time. You felt in a certain way and you simply reacted, either by feeling worse or by becoming aggressive. Nobody likes to feel inferior, so chances are that a person works hard to hide the true feelings because they are too unpleasant.

Feelings of low self-esteem are very common, and more often than not we witness in the same person the opposite; arrogance and feeling superior.

Is a person however inferior or superior? No, those are just emotions, they are not who we truly are.

Feeling superior is a way to overcompensate the inferiority feeling, and other times, when a person has been feeling superior, there comes a time that he or she will plummet down to the other end of the spectrum, feeling inadequate and insecure.

The Bach Flowers have been around for a long time, created originally to treat physical symptoms by addressing the emotions behind it. Before Dr E Bach, this concept was totally unknown.

Don’t stop there though; the physical symptoms are the last stage of the body attempting to draw your attention to an imbalanced state of mind.

Treat the emotions before it becomes physical and you will not only stay healthy and strong, but you will enjoy a much better life, as you become the person that you truly are...

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Expectations

It happened on Saturday evening after the workshop. We all gathered for a drink at the bar, and we got chatting. I had been thinking of relocating to this part of town since January. So I was chatting, to the lady organiser who I had met before, about my plans.

She had always been very supportive of my work, so when I told her what I was planning to do, which she had asked me about, her reply felt like someone had pulled the rug from under my feet. It took me a few days to realise that she touched a nerve and that I needed to heal something.

And healing indeed I did two days later. I had come to the workshop with expectations. And expectations  were what needed to be tweaked, because those expectations were not mine.

During the self healing, (which is always very targeted and clear) I realised that I was carrying around opposite expectations in my energy field; my mother's, which were; 'as a girl you don't stand a chance in the world' and my father's; 'I put all my expectations on you, and I know you will succeed.'

Without going into the intricate and private details, it was clear that I had been operating from and 'trying' to fulfil two opposite programs at the same time and that of course had a lot of emotional charge that needed looking at.

I felt the pain, the sadness and the anger at the realisation as to how I was so desperate to please both parents, and how impossible it was to fulfil two opposite expectations at once. I did not want to believe my mother's beliefs, and I did not want to be put under pressure to succeed.

Out of love and need, I took on my parent's fears. How common is that, I ask? How many of us do that, taking on what is thrown at them, feeling vulnerable and helpless?

What everyone does when unpleasant events happen, (I have already talked about this, but it always applies) is that we operate from the need to change what happened then.  That is why unconsciously we recreate a similar situation, where we will experience rejection for something we want to do, in the same way that we experienced it then.

When a woman rejects your ideas and you feel really hurt, more often than not you are reliving what your mother used to do to you and you are still stuck there, wanting to change her reactions.

I healed it by connecting to the emotions and stated; "I give up my parent's expectations, good and bad." The words triggered the hurt and then tears. Tears are a way for the brain to to release the accumulated emotions  from the field, and it's a very powerful tool when used it in a targeted manner.

Of course I went into a little more details, but that was basically the opening line.

Your statement gives a command to your field and the brain takes it on.  You have deleted all expectations that were not yours. Then of course you have to put something in, to reprogram the brain.

We are all highly programmable beings, and we get programmed all the time. But once we understand this great truth, what we do is to delete the programs that no longer serve us with all the emotional implications, and we replace them with others of our choice.

This is how we use our free will,  using positive language  that describes our intentions about what we want to have or do with our life.

When we reprogram the brain from our highest truth, by stating what we want, that's when things start to move. And it might be that it's the same things that we were asking for before. But if before we were asking from the need to be approved, now we are asking from a place of alignment with spirit. (Healing connects you with your emotions, which aligns you with the spiritual part of yourself, your highest truth.)

That totally changes the dynamical interaction with the energy in the universe.

Asking out of need means you are asking from fear, and when in fear the energy is limited and coming from people or situations. But when you are asking from the source within you, (and you know the difference, we all do), the things you ask for carry a different weight, and that's when everything start to fall into place.

So although I was very misplaced by that lady's reaction, I did not hold it against her. I needed to heal something.  We always  create what we have in life, and if we look at the whys we can use it to heal the past and to increase awareness as another piece is added to the jigsaw.

Of course that's not how I saw it on Saturday night, but that's how it works. You get upset, you talk about it until you are fed up of talking about it, and then it dawns on you, and when you get it, the rest is relatively easy.

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Three Months Later

It's already October. The summer has come and gone leaving no traces behind. No excitement, no sun, no heat. It was a three months where every day was the same, waiting for tomorrow hoping for the clouds both inside and out to part and see a ray of sunshine.

Mum passed away in May. It took time to adjust although it had been expected, she had been ill for two years, it was not a surprise. Although I think that things could have been done differently.

The emotions were raw despite being prepared.  Taking plenty of Rescue Remedy helped a lot, and doing healing with her before she passed away was an incredible experience. I held mum's hand in my healing space for weeks, until she was finally ready to see beyond the fog and fear. We all felt that she was happy and peaceful when it finally  happened.

Losing the last parent only added more intensity to a summer that was incredibly intense on so many levels. The  whole of August was spent with Mercury retrograde on my tail, which gave me three full weeks of revising.

For those familiar with the Mercury retrograde you might recall, volatile emotions, rows out of nowhere with family and loved ones and fear coming in from nowhere.  I had my share. But I am an emotional healer, so I used the energy wisely.

I healed and healed and healed some more and wrote and wrote and wrote intensely about all the emotions and angst that were coming from other lines of time that needed closure and reconciling. Some events in the the past wanted attention.

The astrological alignments were affecting everyone and everyone felt the pinch of frustration and anger. So many projects, so many ideas, and still the tide was out, putting an edge on everything.

Having a family death was just a little extra stress that I could have done without, although the illness was just as stressful.

There was no time to communicate with the outside world, it was a time of reflection and healing.

Projects and ideas had to be visited and revisited a million times, but all that, gives energy to the plan, so that when finally the time is ripe, we are ready to take those steps that we felt unable to take before.

It's fair to say that the summer was time to slow down, and October now has much better planetary alignment to finally move on to the next phase of our lives. And so many people, irrespectively of their astrological knowledge find themselves in exactly this situation. Summer was a time of confusion and October suddenly has opportunities appear as the energy has been freed, and everyone feels ready for action, although still with a little bit of confusion or hesitation.

Soon the desire for change will become so impellent that will be unstoppable.

So if you like me have been through the last three months feeling this way, you can finally take a breath and start to smile again. All that work done in the summer is now going to pay off.

If you still feel confused, simply state that you are willing to change. This automatically opens the door to the real you that wants things to be well in every area of your life, and to the energy that is now knocking on your door asking you to change, without you having to do much other than appreciate what is coming.

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Healing-Full Moon-Lunar Eclipse

Healing is one part of the story. Then there is the influence of the planets with their cycles, equinoxes, solstices and then there are the cycles of the moon and Eclipses.

Talking about having your hands full.

It's not always easy to keep track of everything but it is quite a relief when we do, to be reminded that no matter how much healing we do, we are still influenced by these factors. Sometimes we need to be patient while other times we need to grab the opportunity because of the auspicious alignments that say: "Hey, luck is on your side, the doors are open and it's easier to put into action now what you have been waiting to act upon".

It's full moon tonight, and we also have a lunar eclipse. A very important time, the effects of which are felt before and after and they are connected to a nineteen year cycle. What happened in 1992 and 1973 that is felt today? For some, nothing terribly significant, for others, lots was going on, and suddenly we feel thrown into a whirlwind of emotions that throw us in all directions. One minute we feel amazing, the next really down and depressed, or totally overwhelmed with all the things that need doing.

Riding the waves it's something we must learn to master if we want to get through these times. We sit and we let the emotions run havoc, we take some Flower Remedies, (they always, always work wonders) and we address some of the emotions, and if we are really brave we do some digging in the past (which is always part of the healing anyway).

I know, it can get really tiring and tedious, tell me about it. Sometimes, I just want to shout, "I have had enough of doing healing, where is my reward?"

And then, meekly, I get on with it, because I know that when something is eating me up, or I feel really dreadful,  once the healing has happened I will feel on top the waves again.

What I have learned is that doing healing at these times is particularly effective and incredibly powerful, because you are directly connected to those times where there is a leak through - the emotions from the past that are affecting you in the now.

So if you are feeling strangely overwhelmed, angry or depressed, if things suddenly get out of control, and you think you are losing the plot ... hang on it there and start digging. Soon you will find what beliefs and emotions you felt at those times, and you can release them from your field by undoing those beliefs (it is that easy), and you can use the power of the full moon-eclipse to establish a new way of thinking, a new program that will take you through the next nineteen year cycle.

Once you have identified what beliefs you created about yourself then, you can see that those beliefs are still affecting you now. You will also find all the emotions that you suppressed because it was not safe for you to express them at the time. You have the power and the safety to express them now.

If anger is what you felt, get some big, fat pillows and punch them until you have no breath left.

If you felt depressed an unwanted, breathe all those emotions out, until there are no tears left, and a sense of peace will prevail.

Use your breath and your words. "I undo this belief, (whatever that is) and this emotion", and breathe it out.

Get busy today, tonight and tomorrow, these are great times to make fantastic stride forward.

You can take some remedies to help you, like Walnut to break from the past, Hornbeam if you are a procrastinator, Gentian, if you are getting depressed, or Elm if you are too overwhelmed.

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