Who Lives With You? Destructive Behavior

We are spirit dwelling in a physical body. It is our duty and responsibility to take care of it by nourishing it well, but also by intending to be the only occupier of it. When we experience unusual behavior, deep depression, bouts of unwarrented anger, we have to ask this question: "Is there anyone living in my body besides myself?"

I talk a lot about entity possession, as it is extremely important that we understand what this means and how easy it is to be possessed.

Entities can be of two kinds, the spirit of dead people who died suddenly or violently, or demons. Some people die and they don't know  where to go,  so they jump on the closest body they can find. Doctors, nurses, people working with the old, soldiers, are the people more affected. Locations where people die also create a place for entities to create more accidents and more death. Demons are  beings of lower dimensions that thrive on the thrill of morbid, fear with all the gory details.

Traumatized people are particularly prone to possessions, just like those who use drugs and alcohol.  Whether entities are of one kind or another they slowly take over, and the person is not him/herself anymore. Releasing entities from the body into the light, is a major part of healing that will help not only the person but also the entities that would otherwise find another body to go to.

Healing Is a Daily Business Chapter 9 The Dark Energy Story.

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What Is Healing?

Healing is reinterpreting experiences. This means looking at those experiences in life that have left a negative imprint in our memory and understand the real story behind it. You might ask, "What story is behind abuse and pain?" Well I could say that that people who have done the abuse have probably been abused themselves and have been acting out their anger and impotence. This does not justify their actions of course, but it gives another perspective on the story.

Healing is a way to say, "I look at things differently and I am willing to let go of those feelings that keep me trapped in the past, because I want my life back." When we hang on to resentment, anger, self reproach, guilt, when we want to change the past, because we feel hard done by, and humiliated, we cannot fully live in the present and fulfill our talents and skills. Hanging on to the past does not change it, it only perpetuates it. 

When we do healing, we don't let anyone off the hook. Whatever anyone does, they will have to face the consequences one day. We heal for ourselves, we let ourselves off the hook, for not having been smart enough to avoid the abuse. What really hurts are the feelings of impotence and rage, feeling helpless against someone who took advantage of a defenseless child.

When we understand that what we create also comes back, we can let ourselves off the hook, from another time. When we understand that we have agreed to participate in the experience of abuse, we can look for the gem. Would you do to another what has been done to you? If the answer is no, then you have passed with flying colors. Be willing to look for the bigger picture and you will be free!

The whole book Healing Is A Daily Business is on healing, and how day in day out you find an answer to your quest!

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Dramas: The Tyrant-The Victim-The Saviour

Dramas or stories, are simply adopted behavior created by an emotional reaction to events. In other words, if in early life we did not experience love, acceptance or approval,  very cleverly (as that was the only smart choice we could come up with) we learnt to modify our behavior to please those in charge of our upbringing. Children pick up things really quickly and they figure out very fast what is the safest way to be if they want to survive.  The downside of this is that this behavior or drama  then becomes the  'default program', from which we live throughout life.

The major dramas are the tyrant, the victim and the savior. We all play out these parts at different times in our lives, until something happens and we switch from one drama to another. Most of us are totally unaware that we are stuck in a drama, in fact we think that the way we are is who we are. I have called these dramas the trapping trio, because they trap our life force and the ability to be  our true self, to feel, give and receive love.

In chapter two, of part two of Healing Is A Daily Business, I describe and explain very thoroughly what these dramas are and how they stop us from being our true self.  Dramas keep us disconnected from spirit (our own spirit), and keep us stuck in fear. When we choose to understand what dramas we play and give them up, we learn that we don't have to manipulate anyone to get what we want, because we are finally free to be who we want to be, from awareness, self respect and self love.

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Once Upon A Time ...

Once upon a time, there was a little girl. She was born in a small village in the South of Italy ...

This is how 'Healing Is A Daily Business' starts. A book that is rich with channeled information.

I am still amazed today by what I was able to access during those four years of intense writing. Was it because I was psychic that I had the chance to tap into so much knowledge? Was it the pain and the determination to find answers? I don't know. All I know is that every time I was in pain, I sat down and wrote. The memories would flow in fast and furious, and with that, insights after insight, and answers to unanswerable questions.

I used to get such a high every time I cracked another code. Every time I had an emotional entanglement, I would not stop until I got to the bottom of it and got the answer I was looking for.

'Healing Is A Daily Business' is the story of a painful but incredibly rewarding journey. I still look at it with a sense of awe, not because I wrote it, but for the precious answers that have enriched and liberated my life and the life of the clients that I have had the privilege to assist in their own awakening.

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Find A Thought

Whenever I contemplate things that are not working in my life, inevitably I start to feel depressed. This morning, I woke up feeling despondent about recent events that have thrown me off balance. I did not want to feel that way, I wanted to find solutions and answers.
I decided to adopt a strategy that I used to use when I was younger: make an effort to think one good thought! A positive thought that will bring a smile to my face. It can be anything. It can be the newly bought boots, what I am going to have for dinner tonight, a phone call with a friend, a list of things that I can see coming into my life ... anything.
Anything that creates pleasure in our mind, puts the body into alignment with the source of love within self, and the vibration of the body rises from whatever negative emotion is being experienced to a place of truth.

So when I woke up this morning, feeling low and sad, I immediately thought about something that brought, not just a smile to my face but a deep sense of well-being — my plans for the coming year! Thinking about what I want and how I want my life to be, always brings me pleasure and as I felt better, I was able to contemplate and consider my options about the recent events, with a clear head.

When we are not in a place of truth, or in the ‘gap’ as I call it, we are not able to ‘see’ solutions, we can only see what is already there which causes even more despondency. It takes time obviously to train oneself to snap out of the familiar groove of feelings, and say ‘no, I want to think something that makes me feel good’.
My way to handle despondency in the past was to recite, “I love myself”. However, thinking one good thought though seems to be working just as well.  It does not take much effort, and it shifts the energy really quickly.

It still holds true though that when we don't manifest what we want, there are other factors to consider and looking at one's beliefs around what one wants is vital. But dwelling in depression does not help healing. So think one good thought, get back in alignment and from that place you can 'see' all the solutions that you want and need.

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Rent Scams - Trust Your Instincts

I wanted to  help a young couple looking for a place to live. I went on Craig's list and replied to a few ads. One stuck out, almost too good to be true. Only £88 per week for a room in a beautiful location, in a beautiful house. A few emails back and forth with the person at the other end, male or female it was impossible to say, although  a female name was used as a signature, it started to get a bit dodgy. The person wanted proof of deposit, paid to myself through a very well known payment agency, and wanted me to scan the document to 'her'. It all felt very strange.

I made a few enquiries and this 'woman' justified the need for a proof of deposit to my name, as to her own safety as things had been stolen from her flat when she was showing the room to strangers. It still did not make any sense. I had never heard of landlords expecting to see proofs of deposit when you have not even seen the room yet.

I asked the 'woman' if we could speak on the phone. But she declined and started to get annoyed. If I could not be bothered to go through all the hassle then she could not trust that I was genuine and gave me more funny explanations. I felt that I was being overly suspicious and eventually agreed to do what she asked. Immediately she sent me a scanned passport to 'reassure me' which said she was Polish.

The feeling of uneasiness in my stomach became stronger.  As the day went by I felt more and  more uneasy to the point that I started to panic. Having been conned before, I recognized the feeling. This time instead of being more concerned to please the other person, I chose to listen to my instincts that were definitely against doing any transaction of any kind and so I asked:
"How can I found out if this is a scam?" The inspiration came immediately. I googled the name that this presumed lady used for the email address and there it was in plain sight for all to see. It was a massive scam. There is a website that has taken the trouble to collect these scammers emails and make it public on the internet. Word for word, the ad was cited, and used with different email addresses, advertising different locations in London. Once the receipt with the money in your name is scanned through  Western Union, the other person can collect the money anywhere in the world, as no proof of ID is required,  and you will never see your money again, or the apartment for that matter.

I could not believe it! I almost fell for it, because I was afraid to 'upset' a total stranger, and because I wanted the room that looked really nice and was so reasonably priced.
Equally though I felt ecstatically happy. By listening to that nagging feeling that something was not right, I had proved myself right, and saved myself the humiliation of being conned and of losing a big chunk of money. When you are being conned, is not so much that the loss of the money that is a problem, but the feeling of having been so naive. You feel so stupid that is almost unbearable.

People who cheat and steal to survive belong to a very sad category, but that is for them to see. What we must do is to learn to trust our own power and not to be afraid of saying no. Whichever deal you are entering into, whether is rental agreement or anything else, always trust your own instincts. Don't give in to fear of upsetting others by asking questions, and do not fear to make inquiries before parting with your cash.

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The Second Edition of My Book

It was two years ago and it did not feel comfortable. I had worked hard, I had done it all myself. I was not too sure about what I was doing, but I did it. A book that was not supposed to be one was born. It was the editing of accumulated pages of journal, full of insights and incredible information. I published the book, I was fairly proud, but I was not too keen to going public. I sold a number of copied, I gave away some, but I did not want to push it,

This was two years ago. In those two years, my mother came to stay with me a couple of times for five/six weeks at a time and she was still pushing my buttons. I guess there will always be buttons that a mother can push. My emotions were still roller coasting from one extreme to another. I did not want to touch the book again. Then two years later, I decided to face the fear of success.

The book needed editing, it needed a make over without taking away any of the precious information. I hired someone to help me. That was last January. A job that was supposed to take three months ended up taking up the whole year. Yes there were a lot of problems and divergences of opinions, but as the months were rolling by it was clear that I was still not comfortable with going public, for fear of being judged, which was manifesting still in my life. I felt judged a lot. So I patiently did more healing and more clearing. The more I cleared my field the stronger and more present in my body I became and other people who were on  my side this time started to appear.

It was a long, stressful and frustrating journey, but it was worth every minute of effort I put into it. Now the second edition is ready and this time I feel very proud of the results. I can't wait to get it out there, to talk about it and to share it with people. Editing the book was like editing my life and those emotional residues that still lingered and it has taken me into a place of sobriety. Yes we have all had a terrible life, a terrible childhood that has caused us to be the way we are, that have influenced our choices of partners, jobs and lifestyle. What I have however learned the most is this: whatever life we have had, whatever the experiences, whatever pain, stress, abuse, whatever has happened to us, we are here to wake up to the greatest truth of existence. Love is all there is. Love is the force of the universe, and what does not resonate with love is a man made existence that comes out of disconnection. 

We are all longing to connect, to be wise, to be knowledgeable, and to have joy in our existence, but because we don't know how to do it, we switch to survival mode and we adopt strategies, that then become us. 

As I went through the book again, a few times, I was truly humbled by what I had learned. I did expose family secrets, and other uncomfortable truths, but I also found a place of understanding and compassion for all that happened. And that was the greatest gift of this book.

It was all together a fifteen year journey. Now I feel that I can finally focus on allowing myself to be who I truly am the joyful, loving, compassionate and fun being that I have always been.

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