There are some fears that are healthy and some, most, that are not so.
Fear is an emotion (optional) generated from within in response to events. We generate fear and we absorb it from others. Children absorb their parents fears and apprehension and then they act them out. Our pets absorb and mirror back to us our own emotions.
When fear is healthy, it keeps us safe, when it is constantly produced in response to actions we would like to undertake, it stops us from doing anything with our life. Which in turns creates other emotions, resentment, anger, envy, and so on, which add to the luggage of the emotional field and then we start to get ill.
During the mercury retrograde I noticed how much fear I still had in my body, and that it was not mine. I had agreed to take on my parents’ fears, and their beliefs with regards to life. I remembered how to please my mother I would accept to take the role of the fearful girl, when I had no fears. My heart was full of excitement and enthusiasm, but she was always saying no to anything I wanted to do. She was afraid, I was not, and that was an insult to her. She was the mother, she should know what to expect from the world surely!
I had a lot of work to do, in releasing my needs to still believe that the only safety I had was what was offered, with all the abuse that came with it. Consequently I continued to manifest what I believed to be the only safety I could experience. People who would abuse me, but that would say they loved me…
It took a lot of courage to dig up the memories and ditch them for good.
We clear one program and we need to create another. Can’t help it, we are biological machines that operate on programs. These can be imposed from our parents, teachers, friends, television… or they can be self created…
How liberating! Once I have undone the old programs, I just reprogram myself and for as long as what I want comes from integrity and awareness, I get just what I ask for.
Safety is not something that anyone provides for us, safety comes by knowing that we are safe. When we are children we are still reasonably free of conditioning and we are connected to the invisible field of energy. We don’t fear for our safety, until someone starts to tell us, or to download on us their fears for our safety and theirs.
Safety is a state of mind, there is no shortage of safety. We can choose to continue to see the world as unsafe, full of crooks and thieves, and we shall continue to get just that.
Or we can say that we are safe, because that is what we want and we start to explore experiencing safety in everything we do, wherever we go.
It is a benevolent universe, it is our fear and fearful expectations that create actions that create damaging outcomes.
In my book “Healing Is A Daily Business” I explain this in details.
So I gave up my need to please my mother, by accepting what she was telling me:
‘The world out there is unsafe, the only safe thing is your family.’ But my family was very dysfunctional, my father was very abusive, and my mother was an incredible manipulator, how could it be safe?
Without any recrimination, I let go of the whole need to change anything and with great awareness and love for who I was then and who I am today, I stated that I am the only source of safety, I create safety in my life, by thinking safe, by telling myself over and over that “I love myself” and that I am only available to draw to my life safety, joyful and fun growth, and that everything I want to learn I now learn without fear of upsetting my mother’s beliefs.
http://lucianellahealing.com/healing-is-a-daily-business
